Hey friends, tell me….
Am I a yes person or a no person? Honestly, I already know the answer — I’ve always been a yes person. I’m 23 years young now, and I’ve never really learned how to say no. But somehow, yes has carried me through life.
Yes, brought me to Canada. Yes, put me in a berry-picking farm. Yes, pushed me into the back of restaurant kitchens, moving from one place to another, working shifts so long I barely had time to breathe. I still remember those 12-hour night shifts at my last restaurant job, dragging myself straight to college after, half-asleep but still showing up. I was tired, but I kept saying yes.
Then came the scariest yes of all — a job in a completely different field. I doubted myself. I wondered if I’d fail, if I’d even survive in that role. But I said yes anyway. Now, five months later, I’m working as an office admin. And I’ve realized that saying yes doesn’t just open doors — it changes who I am.
Yes, is scary. Yes, challenges you. But yes, also teaches you. The real question is: are you saying yes to the right things? You don’t always know until you try. Sometimes you win, sometimes you lose — but either way, you grow.
I’ve also learned to trust my instincts. If it ever whispers no, I’ll trust it. Maybe I don’t know how to say no directly, but I’ll find a way out, even if it means giving an excuse. Not every yes deserves my energy.
People say yes is a weakness. I disagree. I think it depends on the person. For me, yes has been my power. I don’t have to force myself to say no just because the world moralizes about the “power of no.” For me, the power has always been in saying yes — and every yes has built the person I am today.
But I’m not saying you should say yes to everything. What I mean is that saying yes will guide you, and along the way, you’ll learn which doors are worth opening and which ones you’ll eventually close with a no. Yes, teaches you where you don’t belong.
And maybe that’s the real strength — not just knowing when to say no but having the courage to keep saying yes until you find the life that feels right.
“I’d love to hear your thoughts — are you someone who says yes more often, or do you stand strong with no? Share your story in the comments; maybe your journey will inspire someone else.”
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