Hey friends, it’s me again — Ashpreet. Today, I want to share another thought with you.
“Your thoughts about people shape your character.” Think about it. The way you look at others shapes your internal character. The way you judge or appreciate them also quietly builds who you are inside. If you choose kindness in your thoughts, you become softer, warmer, and more understanding. But, if your thoughts are filled with jealousy, it will show in who you are. Negative thoughts will slowly change the person you are becoming.
In my mind, it often feels like two people are arguing with each other. Whenever I think of doing something selflessly for someone, one voice instantly says, “Why should you do this? Things should be equal.” But then, the other voice gently reminds me, “It’s fine if today you are giving more. One day you need the same kindness too.”
I believe that’s how life works — you eventually get back what you sow. If your thoughts are rooted in kindness, patience, and love, those same things will find their way back to you. And if your thoughts are always about keeping scores or being bitter, that’s what you’ll end up surrounded by.
People often tell me, ‘Be exactly how others are with you.’ But if I copy their behavior, how will I even know who I am? How will I say I gave my 100%? I don’t want my character to bend every time someone else is unkind or distant. For me, how others act is information — not instruction. I can notice it. I set boundaries if I need to. I still choose my standard: kindness without being a doormat, respect without losing self-respect. Everyone carries their history, their lens. I won’t let someone else’s mood decide my morals. I’d rather build a story that inspires me when I read it back later. I don’t want a story that fills me with guilt. So, I keep choosing the thoughts that make me better, not bitter; the actions I’m proud of, even when nobody claps.
Let me tell you about something that happened recently. I was at a cafe, and the person at the counter was having a rough day — they were short-tempered and a little rude when I ordered. My first thought was the usual: ‘Why should I be nice if they aren’t?’ But then I paused and decided, ‘It’s fine, I’ll be kind anyway.’ I smiled, said thank you, and left a generous tip. Later, as I walked out, I realized how light and calm I felt. Their mood didn’t control me — my choice to act with kindness did. That small moment reminded me that staying true to your character is more important than matching someone else’s behavior.
So, friends, here’s what I want to leave you with: the way you think about others and the choices you make because of those thoughts define the person you are becoming. Let your thoughts be kind, patient, and understanding — not because others expect it, but because you choose it. Build your own story, one that you’ll be proud to read back, one that inspires you rather than fills you with guilt.
Sometimes, this kind of behavior — staying kind, patient, and true to yourself — leaves you with questions. Questions like, Am I too good for people, or am I just a stupid girl with less experience and understanding? We’ll dive into this next time — I can’t wait to share my thoughts with you! Before leaving, tell me how you shaped your character.
Your friend,
Ashpreet Kaur.
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